Waiting for marriage can feel like an eternity, especially in a world where relationships often seem to define our value. However, as a single Christian woman, your season of waiting is a unique opportunity to grow closer to God and prepare for the life He has planned for you. Here are eight powerful lessons to embrace during this time:
1. Stop Making Marriage & Getting a Husband Your Idol
It’s easy to fixate on marriage as the ultimate goal, but this can unintentionally turn it into an idol. Instead, focus on deepening your relationship with the Lord. Psalm 37:4 reminds us to “delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” When God is your priority, everything else will fall into place according to His timing.
2. Recognize Your Single Season as a Blessing
Your single season is not a punishment; it’s a blessing! Use this time wisely to grow in your faith, pursue your passions, and discover your purpose. Don’t waste it by waiting passively or lamenting what you don’t have. Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us that there is a season for everything, and this one is full of potential.
3. Understand That Your Appearance Matters
Men are visual beings, and the way you present yourself can influence the type of men who approach you. Dressing modestly doesn’t mean being unfashionable, but it does mean honoring your body and reflecting Christ. If you expose yourself or wear clothing that is overly revealing, you may attract men who are only interested in your physical appearance. Strive to be noticed for your character, not just your curves.
4. Develop Your Character
Ask yourself, “If God gave me a husband right now, would I be ready?” Marriage comes with responsibilities, sacrifices, and compromises. Work on your patience, forgiveness, and selflessness. Are you easily annoyed? Do you struggle with compromise? Marriage is not just about receiving love—it’s about giving it selflessly, just as Christ loved the Church.
5. Practice Submission Now
Submission often gets a bad reputation, but biblical submission is about honor and partnership, not weakness. Start practicing submission by respecting your spiritual and professional authorities. Luke 16:10 reminds us, “Whoever is faithful in very little is also faithful in much.” If you struggle with submission now, it will likely be a challenge in marriage.
6. Avoid the Comparison Trap
Comparing your timeline to others can steal your joy. Maybe your friend got married at 25, and you’re still single at 28. So what? God’s plans for you are uniquely yours. Jeremiah 29:11 assures us that His plans are to prosper us, not harm us. Trust in His perfect timing.
7. Be on Assignment
Marriage is not the beginning of your purpose—your purpose starts now! Pursue the assignments God has given you in this season. Whether it’s your career, ministry, or personal development, you have a divine mission to fulfill as a single woman. Don’t wait for marriage to start living.
8. Throw Away Your List
While it’s good to have standards, a rigid list of qualifications for a husband can limit God’s plans for your life. Proverbs 16:9 says, “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” Trust that God knows exactly what you need in a spouse better than you do.
You’re Blessed, Not Cursed
Being single is not a curse; it’s a time to grow, to thrive, and to draw closer to God. Don’t waste this beautiful season wishing it away. Instead, embrace it fully, trusting that God’s plans for your life far exceed your greatest expectations.
Remember, life doesn’t begin when you say, “I do.” It begins when you say, “Lord, I trust You with every area of my life.”
With love,
Natasha
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